Who Will You Become in 2011...?

Have you ever set a goal, perhaps even a New Years Resolution, and not achieved it?  If so, you're far from being alone!  Goal-setting, when done well, is one of the most powerful strategies for transformation I know.  So why do so many New Years Resolutions fall by the wayside within the first half of January, and some even before the clock's struck twelve?!  Here's a big clue:

The purpose of setting a goal, of any kind, is the person you become in the achievement of it. 

Now most people, I've found, intuitively get this.  But then they 'logic' their way into very big trap: "I want to have / do _____________ (quit smoking / lose 30lbs / make more money / meet the (wo)man of my dreams / etc), because then I'll be __________ (happy / secure / confident / loved / etc)" - you fill in the blanks!  And this is a very big trap, for the following reasons:

• The goal itself becomes a negative affirmation.  The underlying message is "I haven't achieved my goal yet, and so I can't be __________ (happy / secure / inspired / confident / loved / etc) now".  As a result, we unwittingly deny ourselves the very 'experience of being' that we are seeking.  We make how we feel totally dependent upon our circumstances.  And we condemn ourselves to long periods of struggle and emotional drought in the hope of some future moment of satisfaction.
• If we want to achieve our goal, we need to take action.  And the very emotional states we deny ourselves are those which make taking the necessary action easy and enjoyable.  For example, how much more likely am I to make healthy food choices and be inspired to be active when I'm feeling confident, secure and loving myself than when I'm not?  Without these good-feeling states, any action is likely to feel so 'up hill' that either it won't happen or it will be very short-lived!
• The goal is set from a feeling of 'lack', by finding fault and focussing on what's missing in our lives.  And, for reasons I'll explain more fully in future posts, this leads us to Drive Hard... in completely the wrong direction!

The answer, I've discovered, is both simple and profound:

Allow yourself to become Who You Really Are right now.

You see, the abundant, confident, inspired, secure, healthy, loved and loving person you want to become already exists - inside of you!  Underneath the layers of conditioning, the self-doubt and the limiting beliefs, it's Who You Really Are!  And when you tune in, when you make a connection on the inside to the fullness of who you are, you can feel it, can't you?  These are the moments when you know your worthiness, know your power, know your ability to create your life just the way you want it to be AND experience ease and joy along the way!

So how can we make really good use of the arrival of this New Year?  Here's my invitation for today - and for the next few days...  Park your goal for now and back up just a little.  Take out your Travel Log and head up a new page with the question "How will I be as a person when I've achieved everything I want to achieve?"  Then start to write in the present tense about the very best of who you are... becoming more... each day...  By writing about who you are becoming, you will tune more fully to Who You Really Are.  Experience the bliss that this alignment brings! 

Now, as you continue to write, begin to describe what you are doing and what you have as a result - the abundance, the relationship of your dreams, the bodily condition, the work that doesn't feel like work - everything that is a match to Who You really Are!  Don't censor it - you're not commiting to anything at this stage, and you don't need to know anything about when or how this could come about.  We're just playing with ideas, so let it flow -  and, if it feels good, write it down!

Take your time with this.  Play with it for a little while, then put it down.  Add to it over the next few days, as your inspiration begins to flow even more fully and one idea leads to another.  And know that, by staying aligned with the truth of who you are, everything you have been waiting for will begin to flow into your experience faster and with greater ease than you ever thought possible.

Happy New Year!

"We will open the book.  Its pages are blank.  We are going to put words on them ourselves.  The book is called Opportunity, and its first chapter is New Year's Day."  Edith Lovejoy Pierce

 

Comments

[Maria]

Happy New Year, Kate. Just wanted to say thanks for all the work you put into the living magically facebook page.

Much appreciation to you.

[Kate Trafford]

You are so welcome, Maria. It is a labour of love! And it is because of the enthusiasm of people such as yourself, combined of course with Gill's wonderfully inspiring words, that it is such a positive 'space' :-)

I have also now set up a Page to share my own ideas as I'm writing Cruise Control, and you may enjoy that too. Please check it out at www.facebook.com/CruiseControlForLife.

Thank you

Kate x